That's an interesting question, isn't it? Recently, we've had to grapple with that very issue. What if a dancer reports another dancer as "not safe?" Do we ban the "unsafe" dancer from future events? Who gets to decide what is deemed "unsafe" or not? The organizer/host of that event?
What does "unsafe" mean, anyway? Did they try a risky dance move, do they endanger other couples on the floor, or were they inappropriate in the embrace?
These are all great questions.
What we came up with? What is perceived as unsafe/inappropriate to one, may not be so to someone else. That's because everyone gets to decide their own boundaries and draw their own lines in their own proverbial sand. And hopefully, when those lines are made obvious, they are respected.
Tanya Newton explores this topic further in her post. Also look for her link, "What to Do When You are Uncomfortable."
“I don’t get it,” my friend says, their face wavering between distress and indignation. “It was an actual dance move. I wasn’t being a perv. Why would she tell me not to do it?”
"My friend didn’t want to make their dance partner uncomfortable. In fact, they were trying to create a beautiful dance for that partner: showing off their best moves, working with the music, and making good use of the floor space.
"But, whether we’re a lead or a follower, we can do all this and still make our partners uncomfortable. And this doesn’t mean we’re a “bad person” – but it does mean we need to start talking about personal boundaries on (and off!) the dance floor. Even more importantly, we need to talk about how to talk about personal boundaries."
You also might like I Have Boundary Issues.